Back to School Blues: How Family Matters

A three year longitudinal study confirmed what family therapists have observed clinically for decades–namely that patterns of family interaction have profound effects on children–both for better and for worse. Here’s the bottom line: if you want your kids to succeed in school, build a stronger, more loving family. Melissa Sturge-Apple, a researcher from the University […]

Are You Tending Your Garden of Love?

“Your family and your love must be cultivated like a garden. Time, effort, and imagination must be summoned constantly to keep any relationship flourishing and growing.” -Jim Rohn The wish for a deep sense of human connection and commitment is universal. Ask people what is most important to them and their first answer is always […]

Drowning in Love: What’s Too Much of a Good Thing?

Definitions of smothering love: To express your love for someone too much; to cover someone or something completely; to insulate, to overwhelm. Parenting is one of the hardest jobs around. Especially here, especially now, in our rapidly moving, constantly changing modern world. Most parents seek out this job willingly and joyfully with the best of […]

Unhappy Relationships and Depression Go Hand in Hand

“What is the opposite of two? A lonely me. A lonely you.” -Richard Wilbur “It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” -Friedrich Nietzsche The TV ads would have all of us believe that the best cure for depression is the latest and greatest medication. First it […]

Have You Ever Tried to Change Your Partner?

If you have ever tried to change your partner–how’s that working for you? Think about it for a moment… What do you do when you are trying to get your way?¬†You may be lobbying to go to a certain restaurant that your husband hates. You may be wanting to spend money on something your wife […]

The Bond–or Bondage–of Intimacy

1. Do you spend time alone on a regular basis? When you are alone, are you comfortable or do you get anxious? 2. When your partner wants to spend time alone, do you feel rejected, scared or unloved? 3. Do you get jealous or upset when your partner spends time with other friends or family […]