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We have a newborn and my husband and I are really struggling with things. Any ideas about how to cope with this? Is there life after birth?

Research shows that many couples view the birth of their first child as a precipitant to a “major crisis” in their relationship. Statistically, the most likely time of the family life cycle for marriages to end in divorce is in the family with young children. A lack of information about the inherent stress of this… Read the full answer

I don’t understand this value you place on crying. I cry and don’t feel any better after it… Any tips?

Some people feel frustrated and give up on crying when it doesn’t help them feel better or even makes them feel worse. Consider the following when crying doesn’t seem to help: Perhaps you aren’t crying fully enough. It will probably not make you feel better if just well up with tears. That brings the grief… Read the full answer

How bad should it get as a couple before it’s best to end the relationship?

Never underestimate the power of renewal. Think of the sun on a foggy day. Although you can’t see it very well because it is so obscured, you know the sun is still there. If you were once in love and attracted to your partner and that sun was once shining, it is often possible to… Read the full answer

I am now pretty convinced that I need therapy. How do I find the right therapist?

The best time to seek help in therapy is before small problems become big ones. This can save a lot of time and money in the long run. People often underestimate the seriousness of their situation and wait until crises occur. We encourage families to get “check-ups” for preventative mental health, especially if they have… Read the full answer