Contempt Spells Catastrophe for Relationships

Contempt is a relationship killer. It can and does destroy marriages. It can wound a child’s self image, poison the workplace, and push your friends away. If you don’t know exactly what I mean by contempt, it is disdain for another, openly acting patronizing, insulting, and disrespectful. Contempt is criticism with a twist. When I […]

Have You Ever Tried to Change Your Partner?

If you have ever tried to change your partner–how’s that working for you? Think about it for a moment… What do you do when you are trying to get your way? You may be lobbying to go to a certain restaurant that your husband hates. You may be wanting to spend money on something your wife […]

5 Myths About Introverts and Extroverts

“I have to be alone very often. I’d be quite happy if I spent from Saturday night until Monday morning alone in my apartment. That’s how I refuel.” -Audrey Hepburn Sam and Heather arrive in marriage counseling discouraged, frustrated, and at wits’ end with one another. Heather feels like Sam has abandoned her, preferring to spend […]

Untying the Mother-Daughter Knot

“It can be the best of relationships and the worst of relationships–often at the same time. The bond between a mother and daughter is one of the strongest, but it’s also among the most complicated.” -Deborah Tannen   A family of four comes in for counseling–a mom and dad and their two teenage daughters. Although […]

The ADHD Epidemic: What’s a Parent to Do?

I have spent countless hours in deep discussion with both parents and professionals questioning why so many kids are being diagnosed these days with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) or Attention Deficit with Hyperactivity (ADHD). Is there some causal contributor in our food or environment? Is it due to changes in parenting practices? School environments? The […]

4 Ways to Build Strength and Resilience

“In order to succeed, people need a sense of self-efficacy, to struggle together with resilience to meet the inevitable obstacles and inequities of life.” -Psychologist Albert Bandura Given that change, with accompanying losses and hardships, is an inevitable part of life, it is crucial to learn how we can increase our capacity to rebound or […]