Contempt Spells Catastrophe for Relationships

Contempt is a relationship killer. It can and does destroy marriages. It can wound a child’s self image, poison the workplace, and push your friends away. If you don’t know exactly what I mean by contempt, it is disdain for another, openly acting patronizing, insulting, and disrespectful. Contempt is criticism with a twist. When I […]

Fighting the Back to School Blues?

If you are one of the lucky parents whose kids can’t wait to go back to school, you probably aren’t reading this blog. If, on the other hand, your child is getting more anxious by the day, you are not alone, and there are things you can do to help ease the transition. Millions of […]

What We Have Here is a Failure to Communicate!

I am constantly shocked and reminded just how easy it is to hurt or be hurt by our loved ones due to problems of communication. Communication is supposed to consist of both talking and listening in somewhat equal measure. But regrettably, sometimes there is one but not the other. Sound familiar? In some families, everyone […]

Do You Want to Avoid the Next Fight?

Most people are now aware that high levels of conflict–loud, angry or bitter fighting–can be tremendously destructive not only to marriages and intimate relationships but can cause lasting harm to the children caught in the crossfire. As painful as divorce can be for kids, what we know now is that excessive fighting is what troubles […]

6 Tips for Breaking the Blame Barrier

Hardly a day ever goes by when I don’t hear someone blaming someone for something. It is one of the most common–and one of the most frustrating patterns that confront couples and families. Blame can destroy a good marriage, wreak havoc on our friendships, and put innocent kids in the middle of their parents’ arguments. […]

7 Warning Signs Of a Troubled Marriage

I’ve been counseling couples and families for over three decades and one thing stands out. Most people wait too long before they reach out for help…years too long. Problems that might have been solved in five to ten sessions become crises that break up perfectly good relationships. Since only a precious few learned the necessary […]