“The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging of two people is an […]
Do I Have to Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?
One of our favorite books for couples has been on the shelves of The Family Therapy Institute of Santa Barbara for almost twenty years and is still selling. Co-authored by Drs. Jordan and Margaret Paul, Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You? is now in its second edition and can […]
Improving the Dance of Intimate Connection
One of our favorite self-help books for clients, especially women, who need to focus on creating more healthy boundaries is The Dance of Intimacy by Harriet Lerner, published in 1990 but still relevant today. Written by a family therapist and staff psychologist from the Menninger Clinic, the book highlights the importance of women defining themselves […]
The Importance of Healthy Boundaries
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt How often do you say things out loud or to yourself like: “He makes me feel stupid” or “I’m depressed because she is always criticizing me” or “He/she won’t let me do that. think that, feel that…”? If you believe that your self-esteem […]
