Stan and Tiffany came to see me for marriage counseling after an argument over the children erupted into a shouting match. Although they were each embarrassed that they had screamed and used foul language, what confused them the most was what they had said to one another in the thick of the fight. Both of […]
If Your Emotions are Boiling Over or Buried Deep…
“There can be no transforming of darkness into light and of apathy into movement without emotion.” – Carl Jung As a psychotherapist, I am constantly struck by how little the average person knows about emotions– both why we have them in the first place and what we are to do about them when they cause […]
Have You Ever Tried to Change Your Partner?
If you have ever tried to change your partner–how’s that working for you? Think about it for a moment… What do you do when you are trying to get your way? You may be lobbying to go to a certain restaurant that your husband hates. You may be wanting to spend money on something your wife […]
5 Tips to Create Changes in Your Life
“I wonder why progress always looks so much like destruction.” -John Steinbeck What do things like asking loved ones for advice, reading stacks of self-help books, taking classes, searching for a good therapist, or hours of web-searching all have in common? You probably guessed it. There is something the seeker wishes to change. As a […]
The Perils of Perfectionism
“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” -Anna Quindlen Would you like to be able to answer yes to the following questions? Would you like your partner to answer yes? Your children? Do you prefer to be organized and disciplined? Is […]
5 Myths About Introverts and Extroverts
“I have to be alone very often. I’d be quite happy if I spent from Saturday night until Monday morning alone in my apartment. That’s how I refuel.” -Audrey Hepburn Sam and Heather arrive in marriage counseling discouraged, frustrated, and at wits’ end with one another. Heather feels like Sam has abandoned her, preferring to spend […]
