Stan and Tiffany came to see me for marriage counseling after an argument over the children erupted into a shouting match. Although they were each embarrassed that they had screamed and used foul language, what confused them the most was what they had said to one another in the thick of the fight. Both of […]
If Your Emotions are Boiling Over or Buried Deep…
“There can be no transforming of darkness into light and of apathy into movement without emotion.” – Carl Jung As a psychotherapist, I am constantly struck by how little the average person knows about emotions– both why we have them in the first place and what we are to do about them when they cause […]
When Cognitive Techniques Aren’t Enough: Five Practices To Fight Stress
“To use fear as the friend it is, we must retrain and reprogram ourselves. We must persistently and convincingly tell ourselves that the fear is here–with its gift of energy and heightened awareness–so we can do our best and learn the most in the new situation.” ~Peter Williams Barely a week goes by these days without […]
The Perils of Perfectionism
“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” -Anna Quindlen Would you like to be able to answer yes to the following questions? Would you like your partner to answer yes? Your children? Do you prefer to be organized and disciplined? Is […]
3 Steps for Befriending Emotional Triggers (Or How To Get Your Brain Back)
“If we learn to open our hearts, anyone, including the people who drive us crazy, can be our teacher.” -Pema Chodron In the last blog, we learned about what causes emotional triggers–or even worse–a full-blown amygdala highjacking. Sounds a bit like a terrorist attack–only it’s coming from inside your brain. Just knowing that everyone gets […]
Uncovering Emotional Triggers or Where Did My Brain Just Go?
“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our happiness.” -Victor Frankl Have you ever walked into your parents’ house as a mature adult and suddenly turned into a rebellious teenager? Or suddenly burst […]
