Summer is in full swing and all around you, people seem to be enjoying themselves. Happy to be outdoors, puttering in the garden, reading cheesy novels, going to the beach or nearby parks for picnics. Not only do you not get it, you feel worse just seeing their rosy complexions. Like Scrooge at Christmas, you […]
The Aftermath of the Isla Vista Massacre: What Can Be Learned
The tragedy in Isla Vista has left my precious Santa Barbara community—and the nation—reeling. The senseless violence, claiming the lives of innocent young people, has stimulated many different conversations…Conversations about mental illness, about more stringent gun control laws, about violence against women, about inappropriate parenting and the rise of narcissism. No one, myself included, wants […]
10 Tips to Manage Stress More Effectively
Countless research studies have underscored how anxiety and depression correlate significantly with an individual’s sense of control or lack of control over his or her own destiny. The same thing is true when it comes to stress. In fact, given our mortality combined with our lack of control over so much of life, stress goes […]
Stressed to the Limit. No End in Sight.
“Future shock is the shattering stress and disorientation that we induce in individuals by subjecting them to too much change in too short a time.” -Alvin Toffler I received a call from a distressed mother last week asking if her whole family could come to see me. “I’m really worried,” she explained. “Every one of […]
We Are Only As Sick as Our Secrets
“Anything will give up its secrets if you love it enough. Not only have I found that when I talk to the little flower or to the little peanut they will give up their secrets, but I have found that when I silently commune with people they give up their secrets also–if you love them […]
Unhappy Relationships and Depression Go Hand in Hand
“What is the opposite of two? A lonely me. A lonely you.” -Richard Wilbur “It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” -Friedrich Nietzsche The TV ads would have all of us believe that the best cure for depression is the latest and greatest medication. First it […]
