“Fears are educated into us, and can, if we wish, be educated out.” –Karl Menninger If we want to overcome our fears, and most of do, we must first be willing to examine them. Just cultivating awareness of what is going on- naming the sensations without judging and without pushing them away can be the beginning […]
Negative Parentlng of Infants and Toddlers Increases Aggression
Results of a new research study of more than 260 mothers and their children, followed from birth until first grade, were published by University of Minnesota this week. Before the study, researchers believed that the combination of the temperament of the infant and negative parenting, particularly in the toddler phase (think terrible two’s) would put […]
Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids
For more help with Key #2, Expressing Feelings… Dealing with emotions- our own and those of our kids and partners- can be one of the more painful, frustrating, and ultimately fulfilling parts of being in a family. After the groundbreaking classic bestseller, Emotional Intelligence, by Daniel Goleman came out in 1995, the world came to the […]
Tears for the Soul
“The cure for anything is salt water – sweat, tears, or the sea.” -Isak Dinesen Although Isak Dinesen was not a psychologist, her words of advice ring as true today as 100 years ago when they were first written. Not to insult the erudite or the English majors reading this blog, but to remind ourselves, Dinesen […]
Letting Go of Blame
A recent news article by Elizabeth Cohen, Senior Medical Correspondent for CNN Health, examines the effects of bitterness on our health and well-being. This research finding and others are spelled out in a hefty textbook called Embitterment: Societal, Psychological and Clinical Perspectives. For the vast majority of us who will not wade through this material, […]
