Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids

For more help with Key #2, Expressing Feelings… Dealing with emotions- our own and those of our kids and partners- can be one of the more painful, frustrating, and ultimately fulfilling parts of being in a family. After the groundbreaking classic bestseller, Emotional Intelligence, by Daniel Goleman came out in 1995, the world came to the […]

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Tears for the Soul

“The cure for anything is salt water – sweat, tears, or the sea.”    -Isak Dinesen Although Isak Dinesen was not a psychologist, her words of advice ring as true today as 100 years ago when they were first written. Not to insult the erudite or the English majors reading this blog, but to remind ourselves, Dinesen […]

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Letting Go of Blame

A recent news article by Elizabeth Cohen, Senior Medical Correspondent for CNN Health, examines the effects of bitterness on our health and well-being. This research finding and others are spelled out in a hefty textbook called Embitterment: Societal, Psychological and Clinical Perspectives. For the vast majority of us who will not wade through this material, […]

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How to Improve your Communication

If you need help with Key #1, Talking and Listening… Although there are many excellent books on communication, we have found Marshall Rosenberg’s teaching of nonviolent communication to be one of the most user-friendly. This model is excellent for children, teens, couples, and families. What made this resource even more special is that Don and […]

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Listening

“The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen.”  -Ralph Nichols My quote for the week is about listening because who among us does not need reminding to do just that…whether it is with our partners, our parents, our children, the neighbor, […]

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Human Generosity

A team of scientists at UC Santa Barbara recently published some interesting and hopeful findings about human nature in the current issue of the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences (July 25, 2011). Whereas traditional theories from evolutionary biology and economic theory would have predicted that acting generous, defined as helping others without any guarantee of […]

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